I was really skinny when I was a teenager. And I hated it.
People would tease me about it. “Has she got an eating disorder?” they’d ask behind my back.
I was embarrassed. I just wanted some curves. Girls were meant to have curves, right?
I desperately tried to put weight on.
Decades later, people were warning me my thighs were getting too big.
After two kids I have NO problem gaining weight now 😉
So much so, I’ve had warnings to watch what I eat… of course, they’re just concerned for my health they say.
Err.. thanks?! Not.
No matter what size you are, there will always be someone out there that thinks you need to change.
What really matters is how you FEEL about yourself.
Are you happy with you?
This week I read an interview with a Victoria Secret model who gave up her 12 year diet obsession and decided to to eat what she wanted, when she wanted and with joy – what I’d call “intuitive eating.”
She gained weight, but didn’t care – because she was finally happy and able to enjoy eating and enjoy physical activity rather than obsess over how many calories she was eating or burning. Of course, many of us will look at the “heavier” version of the Victoria Secret model and say, “yeah, but I’d be REALLY happy to look like that!” Please remember this, the same is true for us whatever size we currently are…
- Happiness is not found inside an artificially down-sized body, created by restrictive dieting and over-exercising. Even Victoria’s Secret models are miserable in slim bodies it turns out.
- Semi-starvation does NOT make anyone happy – and that artificially down-sized body comes with the need to continually restrict food and over-exercise. It sucks.
- Intuitive eating and body positivity is the solution. Learn to love your body, or at the very least to treat your body with respect and nurture yourself by eating intuitively (which is basically learning to eat normally again, instead of like all the diet-obsessed, wellness worriers out there).
You’re far more likely to find happiness there my friend.