The Biggest Lie We Tell Ourselves – And 8 Tips To Boost Your Happiness Now 

 May 28, 2019

By  jennifer@thinkingnutrition.co.nz

“I would have my life together if I was thinner….”

“Then I’d buy new clothes that fit, book the beach holiday, have my photo taken with the kids, be loved more and feel fabulous.”

Only after years of struggling to stay at your goal weight you finally realise your life is far from “together”. And then as you realise that being smaller doesn’t equal being happier, the disappointment slowly seeps in.

That quest to be smaller has distracted you from finding your true happiness.

So where is my happiness then?

The Diet Lie – Happiness Is Not Found Here

The Diet Lie robs you of your life, of your God-given gifts, and entraps you in its web with promises of a smaller, thinner, “better” body and life.

So you focus all your time and efforts on eating the right foods, counting macros or calories, keeping a food diary, planning out your meals, finding new recipes, discovering better diet plans that’ll shed even more kilos…. your focus and life revolve around this goal of creating the “better body for a better life”.

And yet it’s nothing more than a diversion from your real life.

Like walking down a dead-end street paved with gold. How far will you keep walking until you realise this road goes nowhere and you need to turn around?

So many of us are aware that we’re emotional eaters. That we use food to dampen down those awful feelings of pain, hurt, shame or even just boredom.

We can see it, feel it, we know it – that we’re using food to distract ourselves from our emotions rather than feeling those difficult feelings.

But it takes some mighty work for a dieter to realise they’re actually using dieting itself, as a way to distract themselves from the difficult stuff in their life.

Instead they keep walking down the dead-end street paved with gold. Rather than going back to the intersection and choosing to stop dieting and instead take the difficult rocky path to a more fulfilling life.

Letting Go Of Dieting – Choose Happiness Today

The next best diet can become the great hope in your life. That this diet will fix everything and your life will be better.

But here’s the truth – happiness is a decision you make every day.

You can choose to show up and see the best in yourself.

Or you can choose to keep criticising yourself and telling yourself you’d be worthy of more if you were smaller.

You can choose to see the small joys in life today – like a good book, a walk on the beach, or a coffee with a friend.

Or you can choose to remove yourself from life and your relationships and instead spend your days counting calories and meal planning for tomorrow.

You can choose to buy comfortable clothes that fit you today – because clothes are meant to fit you, not vice versa.

Or you can choose to keep being physically uncomfortable, wearing too-small underwear and trousers, in some sick-twisted game of shaming yourself.

You can choose to be in the photos with your kids today and to cherish those memories forever, without focusing on the size of your arms or tummy.

Or you can choose to hide behind the camera, so when you’re gone (and you will be one day), your kids will sadly wonder why they have no photos of you with them when they were growing up.

What’s it going to be?

Saying Yes To Your Life – 8 Tips To Boost Your Happiness Now

Are you sick of wondering how to get out of the diet cycle?

Don’t wonder any longer. Just say NO to The Diet Lie today.

And say yes to reclaiming your life again.

Because your happiness is right here, right now, ready for you to grab with both hands.

And here are some things you can do to find that happiness right now:

  1. Keep a gratefulness journal – every night write down 3-5 small things from that day that you’re grateful for.
  2. Whenever you think a negative thought about your body – shout out 2 positive non-body-related things about yourself.
  3. Connect with others – help someone else out, turn your focus outwards to others instead of inwards to your body.
  4. Restart a hobby that you’ve let go (because you didn’t have time while dieting).
  5. Practice mindfulness – download a free app like Calm on your phone and practice meditating each day, so you learn how to focus on the here and now.
  6. Do what you’re passionate about – what sets your heart on fire? Do that! (and trust me, it’s not dieting, ahem).
  7. Hug your loved ones – a gentle embrace sets off changes in your brain that make you feel good and reduce stress. Hugs are gold!
  8. Go for a walk in nature – whether it’s the beautiful sights, the meditative steps of walking, or something else, studies show that walking in nature helps us to feel better.
  9. Laugh – find a funny Netflix show, grab a live comedy show, or hang out with that humorous friend, laughing is truly the best medicine.

Your happiness is here right now for the taking. Don’t postpone it for another day.

Jennifer xo.


Hey, I’m Jennifer. I help women transform their relationship with food, their body and weight, so they can ditch the guilt and shame, and focus on more important stuff - like living a happy and healthy life!

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    1. Thanks Donna – glad you enjoyed it! It’s something I’m working hard on myself – finding the joy in little things each day 🙂

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