“I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I’m not enough.
Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up.”
~ Lauren Daigle ~
Do you feel like if you can’t “get it right”, then you should just give up? You’re either all in, or all out? There is no middle ground? Just failure or success?
I’m not surprised you feel that way – we’re taught to feel that way.
Good and bad foods, lose weight or be a loser, thin or fat.
It’s all so black and white.
And it’s all so wrong. Because we live in a world that has a kaleidoscope of colours, not just black and white.
And a kaleidoscope of people – all different colours, sizes, and shapes. Not just tall, thin and white.
And frankly I’m tired of the world making you and me (and so many others) feel as though you’re a failure if your lunch is not instagram-worthy (peanut butter on toast, anyone?), your thighs have cellulite (mine do), your butt is wobbly (mine is), and you have rolls on your tummy (me too).
Let’s not get started about the hair though (dear Lord, I’m thinning, thanks-no-thanks peri-menopause).
You and I don’t need the world’s permission to be who we are meant to be.
From the moment you were conceived, you were carefully knit together in the womb, arriving innocently into this world trusting that you would be loved and cared for.
And I’m gonna be blunt – diet culture has let you down. Seriously.
This week I’ve been playing this song on repeat… I love the words in “You Say” by Lauren Daigle.
You feel like you can’t meet the impossible food goals that are out there – and for good reason. They’re impossible!
Whenever you restrict and try to stick to a pile of nasty food rules that you don’t agree with (no chocolate?!), life is going to get tough.
And after it gets tough, it gets unbearable, and then you give in (and eat the chocolate), and feel like a loser.
But the problem is not YOU.
The problem is the impossible food rules. And the impossible body goals.
Black and white. Healthy or unhealthy. Succeed or fail.
But life’s not that black and white. Except if you’re in prison, maybe.
Remind yourself who you are – what are THREE things that you love (or like) about yourself, that have nothing to do with your body?
You are created for more than just being skinny.
Don’t let this diet-obsessed world mess with your head.
Giving up doesn’t mean you can’t live in a way that honours your health. It just means that you’ll no longer go to the extreme of ignoring your own happiness.
Because happiness is not found on a bathroom scale.
Happiness is found out there in the world, with the people that matter to you.
Knowing you did your best, and that food is just food.
Because restriction and rules always lead to cravings and eventually to giving in to those cravings, and the guilt that you then feel.
We’re not giving up on living a happy and healthy life.
We’re giving up on obsessing over our health and size.
We’re not giving up on nourishing our body for life.
We’re giving up on the idea that good health is 100% about our physical health and size. It’s not. Good health also includes spiritual, emotional and social aspects of our life too, for starters.
Ditch the restriction, the rules and the diets – and the cravings will slowly disappear.
Because the problem was never you, the problem was always the black and white diet rules.
Ditch the restriction, the rules and the diets – and your happiness will return too.
Because they were the problem, not you.